New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings.
Change can be very uncomfortable, painful even. Whether it’s being made redundant, retiring, divorce or separation, illness and loss; we encounter many changes and periods of transition in life and sometimes these can have a massive impact on us.
When things change we lose that sense of familiarity and reassurance. Life doesn’t feel ‘normal’ anymore. Everything is uncertain and new. This can lead to feelings of anxiety and drain us of energy.
Change can knock our confidence and sense of identity too. Once we were sure of ourselves, we knew who we were and our place in the world but now doubt has crept in. The way we used to introduce our self or describe what we do, that identity no longer fits.
We may go through a period of grief and anger asking ‘why me?!’ or shouting ‘it’s not fair!’ These are perfectly normal emotions and important that we express them. The key to moving forwards though is to not get stuck in this place.
We could let these new circumstances dictate what we do and restrict our focus. Or, we could choose to see it as an opportunity to review where we are and what we want in life. This is our chance to redefine ourselves and create a new identity. It’s a time for growth and personal development, to build our resilience so we become better at dealing with whatever life throws at us.
Life begins at the end of our comfort zone
Our comfort zone may just be that, comfortable and familiar and secure but it can also lead to boredom and stagnation. When we begin to stretch and challenge ourselves that’s when the magic happens, when we begin to grow and experience life on a new level. It’s not to say it’s easy or quick but with persistence and determination life can become more fulfilling than we imagined.
Working with a life coach is a great way to navigate through periods of change and transition as they provide support, encouragement and appropriate challenge so you can move forwards with confidence and a sense of purpose again
5 tips for ensuring a smoother transition
- Take time to consider what you really want going forwards. This is your chance to start afresh so put good foundations in place and don’t rush into anything.
- Small steps – challenge yourself with small steps at first. If you stretch yourself too much it can feel overwhelming and create a sense of panic
- Be gentle with yourself. Celebrate even the smallest of wins and if things don’t work out as you would like congratulate yourself for trying anyway. Learn from the experience and do something different next time
- Be patient, change is a process not an event. It takes time to change and adjust.
- Don’t compare yourself to others. Everyone is different and will handle change in their own way – there is no right or wrong.
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