In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes (Benjamin Franklin)
From this we can deduce that all else is uncertainty, which gives rise to the possibility of change!
Some people view change as scary and anxiety inducing while others see it as exciting. I guess it depends on your mindset and previous experience of change. It can be either or both, depending on the circumstances surrounding it.
Change is scary
If someone’s change is forced upon them (such as redundancy, divorce or serious illness) then it’s like to be scary, frustrating and uncomfortable. This sort of experience could lead a person to re-evaluate their life, question their identity and knock their confidence. There may be a period of grieving, denial or anger. These would all be normal responses. What we know to be familiar has now shifted; things are new and uncertain.
Symptoms of stress:
- not being able to sleep
- feeling exhausted
- weight gain or loss
- mood swings
- physical symptoms e.g. skin problems, headaches
Looking after well-being often drops down the priority list at times like these when in fact it should be an essential activity. Maintaining good well-being will help to increase resilience and enable you to deal with the situation better. If you ignore your well-being it’s likely to exacerbate the problem.
Activities to improve well-being
There are a number of steps that can help improve your well-being, such as:
- Eating nutritious, healthy meals
- Getting proper rest and time out
- Exercising and physical activity
- Time out in nature
- Getting support from others
- Doing activities that bring joy
People may feel guilty or selfish for spending time out and putting themselves first but it’s vitally important. Remember the airplane safety instructions
“put your own mask on before helping others”
That’s because if we don’t help ourselves then it won’t be long before we can’t help anyone else either. It also demonstrates to others that we are worthy, that we value ourselves and that others should too. It gives permission for others to do the same.
Change is exciting
If we can switch our thinking and see change as an exciting opportunity then it allows us to move forward in a different, more optimistic way.
For example, redundancy can be an opportunity to start again, doing something we love, to change our careers. After a sudden change we may need to take stock and re-evaluate. Give yourself time to consider what you really want in life, what you would actually like to change and then start taking steps towards it. Working with a Life Coach during such circumstances can be invaluable as they can help you see the situation from different perspectives and talk through potential options whilst providing support and encouragement. It may take time, patience and persistence but the effort will be worth it in the end.
If you’d like support to help you navigate your period of change get in touch to arrange a free initial consultation.